Is there a path that assures future success in sports? Many parents and coaches seem to believe that there is. They don’t have the expertise to determine on their own what the path is, so they have allowed the current sports culture to define it for them. Youth sports are telling parents that more is better. It resonates with them because they don’t want their kid to fall behind. It starts very early for parents. They measure their parenting by how quickly their sons and daughters crawl, talk and walk in comparison to others. If their child is behind, they do what they can make sure they catch the pack…then pass it. Youth sports attacks that soft spot in the hearts of parents and it corrupts them and the children suffer. Parents grab onto the notion presented by our current sports culture without carefully considering the future. Our organizations need to help parents to be more responsible with the path they choose.
USA Hockey has taken an extremely bold stance to change the culture of youth sports. They have unequivocally said that more is NOT better. Of course, they were instantly lambasted by an array of uneducated parents and coaches who had been drinking the Kool-Aid given to them by youth hockey. “More is definitely better,” they all thought. After all, they were just taking advantage of the opportunities USA Hockey was providing for them to develop future NHL stars. When the NHL finally jumped on board and supported USA Hockey, people started to listen. A few prominent professional hockey players were quoted saying that the typical youth hockey season is longer than the NHL season. Kids are playing more games than the professionals.
Parents have the dream of seeing their child play in the NHL, so they believe in the system that tells them they’ll arrive there soon enough. They don’t want their child to fall behind early in his career, so they embark on a sports journey, often times robbing him of his childhood and damaging important relationships, with the genuine hope that it will land him a roster spot on a NHL team. The problem is it’s not. It’s doing the exact opposite, unfortunately, and USA Hockey finally recognized it. They noticed that there has been a steady decline in American-born players in the NHL. They couldn’t put their finger on why until after extensive research, they concluded that the USA Hockey system was broken and kids were getting too much too soon. They eliminated the youngest age group national championships and parents lost their minds, but USA Hockey stood their ground, with the support of the NHL, and is trying to steer the ship in the right direction. Now, we need to get other sports to follow this trend.
Hockey is not alone. Nearly every sport has a youth system that has created a path to burnout. Too much too soon is certainly an issue in wrestling. Youth athletes are competing more than our highest level wrestlers. It’s not uncommon for a 5th grade wrestler to compete in over 100 matches in one season while our best senior-level wrestlers compete in 30 or less. We have it all backwards.
A step in the right direction is to understand the importance of development, not competition, at a young age. Youth athletes need to learn how to play the game before they actually engage in competition. I have adopted a philosophy for my club that requires youth wrestlers to have more practices than competitive matches in one season. This helps place the emphasis on learning the sport and all it has to offer and not on competition. The amount of competitions, which is far greater than the quality of practice time, is the catalyst to burnout.
When considering the guidelines that are in place at the high school and collegiate levels, you will see the backwards trend. The Wisconsin Interscholastic Athletic Association (WIAA) places limits on the high school wrestling season. According to their rules, the 2011-12 wrestling season may begin on November 13 (beginning of Week 20) and end on March 3 (end of Week 35). This makes the season 111 actual days long. The WIAA mandates a day off every six consecutive days, or a minimum 16 days without practice or competition this year. Taking into account the 14 allowed competition dates and 5 postseason tournaments; teams are left with 75 days to practice. Obviously, in high school teams typically don’t practice on weekends or holidays like Christmas or Thanksgiving, nor do they practice on certain hunting days and other random ones. The typical high school team practices around 65 times during a season. The top wrestlers are getting no less than 50 competitive matches under these guidelines.
Move into the NCAA Division 1 wrestling arena and guidelines permit a team to begin practice on October 10 (preseason) and conclude at the NCAA Championships on March 17th, or 162 days. They required team to take off one day, competition or practice, every calendar week (23 days). Take away the 16 competition dates and the post season tournament series and that leaves approximately 118 days. Teams cannot practice during finals week (7 days) or holidays (3 days). Then with random days off on weekends and training breaks, we’re looking at around 100 practices in a season. The top wrestlers have 30-40 competitive matches.
There are no regulations for younger athletes, but you can already see a trend with the two age levels mentioned above. Across the board, the average youth wrestling club begins in January and ends in March. Many youth athletes are practicing and competing far beyond the parameters set within their own community. If the average program is 13 weeks and practices are held two times per week most wrestlers’ competitive opportunities far out-weighs their practice time. In the Wisconsin Wrestling Federation tournament series alone, top athletes are competing in at least 20 competitive matches in the month of March. This doesn’t include the abundance of local youth tournaments that are offered on Saturday and Sunday every weekend during the season. It’s extremely difficult for young athletes to find enough opportunities to practice to keep up with the number of competitive matches they have.
The system is broken. The number of practices compared to competitive matches at the highest level (senior-level) heavily favors practices whereas the lowest level (youth) heavily favors competitive matches. In between, the trend is clear as the high school athlete sees 65 practices to 50 matches and collegiate athletes see 100 practices to 35 matches. It’s time to wake-up to reality because the athletes (and parents) who follow the ways of the youth sports culture are not around long enough to enjoy opportunities at the highest levels because they’re taking the opportunities offered at the lowest levels.
Another example of someone with limited parenting experience trying to tell us what's best for our children.
ReplyDeleteIn a country with the highest obesity rates, highest juvenile crime statistics, highest percentage of drug/alcohol use, highest percentage of gang membership and record high levels for unemployment...I guess your idea would work if I'm not concerned about their future success in college, career and marriage?
Your belief is back off on our kids and let them become like the 99% of X-Box playing, Sponge Bob watching kids. So what if our kids don't go into the NHL, NFL or become Olympic wrestlers. At least they're taught goals and given the opportunity to seek after their dreams.
Who are all these kids that you assume quit because of burnout? I too have heard those stories, but when I speak to those families who were pushed and excelled at certain sports and then quit--there was always more to the story...often other family issues, drug/alcohol issues, girl issues, grades and other dynamics, but everyone wants to play expert on what's best for others and that's what you are doing.
Kevin, I appreciate your opinion and recognize you have a great wrestling background and the past few years as a coach, however I honestly don't believe that you think your future parenting style is how the rest of the world should work? I do agree that more emphasis should be put on practice than competition (common sense), however if a kid enjoys going to tournaments and does more matches than a high schooler one year, who are you to judge that as inappropriate or excessive?
I too once thought a bit like you and used to believe any parent who's child did more than mine was the result of poor parenting, excessive, sometimes abusive and over the top. I've realized that I have no expertise to judge what's best for others no matter my personal experience, education or background. As you grow as a parent, I'd suspect in a few years you'll come to that conclusion as well.
System broken? Doesn't Wisconsin have the most elite clubs than any other state? We've got many kids training year around with making goals and sacrifices for a better future. USA Wrestling reports youth with USA cards continues to grow each year and is at an all time high. Even when you consider NUWAY is growing just as fast and taking away membership numbers from USA Wrestling--they still are both growing. Wrestling is at an all time high. You should be proud of the accomplishments of our youth, not bashing the parents who want the best for their kids.
ReplyDeleteThe analogy of the baby not crawling goes against his argument. Using others as a gauge for our children's growth is a must and it's a concept that must be taught to our children.
ReplyDeleteIf we want our youth to be successful in life they must learn the concept that they must excel beyond their peers. They must get better grades to get in a better college, they must interview better to get a better job and we even teach them social skills so they can be a better friend and future spouse.
If my baby was late at crawling, I would be concerned. If they were late speaking, I would be concerned. If they were the last one picked for sports, I would be concerned. As a parent, I'd do all that I could to help them excel.
I am one of those parents that you describe as "robbing him of his childhood and damaging important relationships" and can tell you these kids you describe as being pushed to hard are doing the best in school, excel in sports, have the most friends and are the most responsible kids you'll meet. You feel a lot more comfortable judging others than I do.
Interesting thoughts...but your business basically caters to the parent who wants more for their kids. If one of your club members goes to more matches in a year do you kick them out of your club?
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ReplyDeleteI'm not sure that personal attacks on Kevin's parenting or business are helping you make your case. Maybe you should re-read what he was saying.
ReplyDeleteIn summary, he said that you should learn the basics, take more time to practice and less time competeing, don't push your children so hard that you are hurting them (never did he say not to push them at all).
My son is not old enough to attend Victory yet, but when he is I will be proud to have a coach that actually cares more about his future than his win-loss record.
Here's the comments that rubbed me the wrong way. Kevin assumes he knows better than the parent. The hardcore wrestling families I know spend more time with their children than anyone else I know.
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"Parents...don’t have the expertise to determine on their own what the path is..."
"...uneducated parents and coaches who had been drinking the Kool-Aid..."
"Parents have the dream of seeing their child play in the..."
"often times robbing him of his childhood and damaging important relationships, with the genuine hope that it will land him a roster spot..."
He doesn't look old enough to have kids out of diapers and he thinks he can parent other kids better? He assumes he knows the thoughts and inner workings of every family.
Kevin does have the educational background statistics to back his article. His age has nothing to do with being qualified to tell people how to coach. He is a national team coach for USA Wrestling. He has followed the USA Coaches Education Program. In my mind he is the most qualified coach in the state of Wisconsin to tell parents the best way to coach wrestlers.
ReplyDeletePeople never like to hear they may not be doing something the right way. He is not saying your parenting wrong but I would beat we both say you are developing your wrestlers wrong. That is if you see competeing as the main tool to judge your wrestlers growth in the sport. Put the most emphasis on learning to love the sport and skills of the sport.
I was able to see two speakers in the last two weeks at the WWF fall meeting and the WWCA meeting that both stated that the values parents want for our kids are not being taught in youth sports.
I will end by suggesting a book for all to read. Its called "inside out coaching". After you read it please let me know what you thought.
Ummm.... actually wasn't the USA Hockey decision based solely on the increase in injuries and concussions and not at all based on the idea of burn out????
ReplyDeleteSounds like you took some journalistic liberty to change the facts to support your idea.
Burn out can occur in anything...church, school, sports, etc. if not presented correctly based on what that particular youth is ready for. I'm glad that Kevin and others do not dictate what our children are ready for and we make our own parenting decisions.
Kevin, based on your profile, I'd suspect you are fairly conservative. There is grounded messages in your blog such as burnout, competition vs. practice and teaching our children to love the sport... but as a fellow conservative I'm amazed that it seems like you want to place more control and restrictions on how people raise their children? You want your moral compass to dictate the lives of others and however right or wrong you are, that's some pretty thin ice you are venturing over.
ReplyDeleteI can definitely see Kevin's points, but I also see the frustrations from parents who want more out of their children. I believe that you cannot push a kid hard enough or cause "burnout" with a kid who is truly obsessed with the sport. Problems occur however when it isn't the athletes who are obsessed, but the parents. All to often a dad who didn't make it to state....or worse yet a former state champ, sets a goal for his kid to be at the top of the podium without considering if the kid really wants that. All too often I've talked with amazing wrestlers who are doing it for dad and not themselves.
ReplyDeleteMy point is by all means push your kids.....harder than they think they can be pushed.....but towards THEIR goals...not yours.
to the last poster: Your response is part of the problem. You assume anyone who is doing more is because of obsessed parents. Who are you to judge "....All to often a dad who didn't make it to state....or worse yet a former state champ, sets a goal for his kid to be at the top of the podium without considering if the kid really wants that...." How do you come to that conclusion?
ReplyDeleteHow in the world can you speak for other families and no what's in their heart or their intentions?
Because I've coached wrestling from the elementary through the high school level for over 20 years, and I have seen first hand, dozens of times, the exact case I mentioned. Like I said earlier....please don't misinterpret my post and think I believe kids should not be pushed. Kids need to be pushed to be champions, and I am 100% in support of that. All I am saying is to make sure the pushing is for the right reasons. Trust me I am not judging the majority of parents who feel the same way you do. I am referring to the minority...a handful that really give this sport a black eye. Some of the highest achieving wrestlers I've coached have come from "obsessed" parents with kids who are also obsessed. There is no better combination. Unfortunately, I have talked to kids, that I have coached and from other teams, who say that if they never had to lace another pair of wrestling shoes, it would be too soon...yet they continue to compete, for someone else. Just my two cents....
ReplyDeleteI think the big difference of opinion is because Kevin is concerned and focused on the path wrestling is on and parents are focused and concerned about the path their kids are on.
ReplyDeleteYou are definitely on to something here with the stance that too much too soon is burning out some of our possibly great future wrestlers. So, what is it that we, as a collection of coaches, can do to change the idea that we should have our little wrestlers in as many matches as possible?
ReplyDeleteWhat can be done when that is, unfortunately, the philosophy of the local club? Is it enough to put a wrestling mat down in the basement and let them roll around and pick and choose tournaments? Do young wrestlers need a variety of wrestling partners? Finally, what do you do when you can no longer participate in the local club because your ideals as a longtime coach do not fit with the win-at-all costs, team them garbage moves when they are little mentality of the coaches running that club?
I did not take this article at all as telling me I am incapable of parenting my own wrestlers and making wise choices for them. Kevin's article only confirms what many coaches have witnessed, and that is wrestlers burning out and no longer wanting to compete at the highest level.
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ReplyDeleteIf they first become "FANS" of the sport "BURNOUT" is dropped from the equation.
ReplyDeleteFortunately my sons don't just love to compete, they love to watch. Teach them about the sport first and then their own success will become less important.
If you have lived it (wrestling) you can't help but to agree with Kevin.
I am a parent of two young men that have always been fans first and competitors second and I believe they have got their priorities straight.