Opinion about the replacement referees in the NFL is no longer a controversial issue. Everyone who doesn’t own a professional football team thinks it’s time to get the original referees back on the field. For Packers fans, Monday night’s debacle was something they never want to experience again.
As a sports fan, I understand that bad calls happen and can affect the outcome of the game. This isn’t new, however, the subsequent reactions seem to be treading on new territory. Calling out the NFL, phone calls to the commissioner, players tweeting expletives, social media outcries, etc. are happening because the fans are upset.
The dynamic I was most interested in during the fiasco was how individuals demonstrated their capacity to handle adversity. Mike McCarthy, the head coach for the Green Bay Packers, represented all that is right about sportsmanship and standards of excellence during and after that already infamous moment. (I’m an avid Packers fan and stock holder, by the way, so I might be biased).
McCarthy was emotionless while the events unfolded. He never lost his composure. In fact, he had the similar stoic demeanor that he exudes during victories. He was calm and steady. Of course, many of the players lost their cool, but McCarthy stayed the course. He has standards and he walked the talk. He went on the describe that he was frustrated that he hadn’t made a change in the game plan sooner and that he was only going to control what he could control. He took the high road.
The talking heads beat this issue to death on Tuesday. I watched the final play at least 150 times. I was anxious to hear what McCarthy had to say and during his afternoon press conference, he didn’t disappoint. He acknowledged that he was upset, however, he said it was his responsibility to help channel all of the emotion and energy in the locker room towards the Saints this weekend. He didn’t say they were ripped off, he didn’t talk about the replacement referees and he didn’t dwell on what had happened. He buried it in the past and moved forward like a great leader.
The Packers are less than two seasons removed from winning the Super Bowl. McCarthy’s press conference yesterday reminded me of his midseason stance two seasons ago. He found a way to take all of the negative energy (injuries, etc.) and funnel it towards the next game one week at a time. He helped the team carry that proverbial “chip” on their shoulders. Once again, one of the best teams in the NFL has a chip on their shoulder and their commander-in-chief, Mike McCarthy, is steering the ship.
McCarthy is a great example of what convictions and standards of excellence look like in professional sports and leadership. Not only is he admirable in moments of crisis, he’s a role model of character and integrity when things are going well, too. He has clearly turned a setback into a set-up this week.
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Why not me?
I've heard many athletes use the term "why not me?" when looking for the confidence needed to achieve their goals. It's a rhetorical question and along the lines of "someone has to win, so it might as well be me" thought process. I'm on board with both.
Last night, I was discussing goals with an athlete and he said he had come to the realization of "why not me?" He was indicating that he had turned the corner in his mind and was ready to achieve the goals he has set for himself. When he said, "why not me?" I instructed him to answer the question. He was stunned and somewhat speechless. I said, "Why not you? Answer that question." Of course he wasn't prepared to answer the cliche question, but it's my nature to push people in those scenarios.
He began explaining why he should reach his goals. He has put in the time, worked harder than anyone else, done all of the little things right, etc. I informed him that's why him. It doesn't answer why not. This is the disconnect. He understood all of the things that should be leading to success, however, he wasn't ready to consider the things that were leading him away from success. It wasn't a case of taking the wrong path or choosing bad things. He was simply being shortsighted in some of the decisions he had made. They looked great in the moment, but more flavor-of-the-month decisions instead of long term planning on how to achieve the goals he had set. The reason he had not reached his goals yet is because he hasn't been completely committed to it in all areas of his preparation and training even if it appeared so from a physical standpoint.
Why not me? Why not? Can you answer that question?
Last night, I was discussing goals with an athlete and he said he had come to the realization of "why not me?" He was indicating that he had turned the corner in his mind and was ready to achieve the goals he has set for himself. When he said, "why not me?" I instructed him to answer the question. He was stunned and somewhat speechless. I said, "Why not you? Answer that question." Of course he wasn't prepared to answer the cliche question, but it's my nature to push people in those scenarios.
He began explaining why he should reach his goals. He has put in the time, worked harder than anyone else, done all of the little things right, etc. I informed him that's why him. It doesn't answer why not. This is the disconnect. He understood all of the things that should be leading to success, however, he wasn't ready to consider the things that were leading him away from success. It wasn't a case of taking the wrong path or choosing bad things. He was simply being shortsighted in some of the decisions he had made. They looked great in the moment, but more flavor-of-the-month decisions instead of long term planning on how to achieve the goals he had set. The reason he had not reached his goals yet is because he hasn't been completely committed to it in all areas of his preparation and training even if it appeared so from a physical standpoint.
Why not me? Why not? Can you answer that question?
Sunday, July 1, 2012
Always make withdrawals, rarely make deposits
We can take this illustration in many different directions. I've shared my concern with the abundance of competitions compared to practices. I've also talked about young athletes are burning out at an alarming rate because of unneeded pressures that steal their margin (margin is the space between load and limit). The truth is, we're a limited resource and we have to be strategic about how we use our time.
If withdrawals exceed deposits, an overdraft is inevitable. We all know this and watch the balance sheet in our checking accounts. Are we doing the same with our life? When someone files bankruptcy, it's too late to start looking at the balance sheet. That work should have been years before the breaking point. The same is true in divorce, giving up, quitting, etc. The breaking point might provide a new perspective, but it's too late to start monitoring the balance. That has to be done well in advance, with foresight and vision, with hopes and dreams, with classifications and priorities.
As a coach, I encourage every athlete to make a priorities list and check it often. I give them permission to classify and prioritize their commitments and relationships. I encourage them to give themselves permission, too. Because some people are useful and some are useless. Some opportunities are build our lives up, others tear them down. When liabilities have out-weigh assets our debt ratio becomes uncontrollable and presents a large number of risks.
In the market place, the higher the debt ratio, the greater risk will be associated with the firm's operation. Like all financial ratios, a company's debt ratio should be compared with their industry average or other competing firms. In the industry of youth sports, the debt ratio of young athletes is running at an unsustainable rate. If the same ratio was attached to an investment firm, a lot of people would lose their money.
Yesterday, an 11-year old athlete told me that his baseball team was scheduled to play 16 games over four days this weekend and into next week. I was shocked by that number and my only response was that he should bring a lot of sunscreen. Our best junior athletes wrestled over 15 matches in four days last week in Oklahoma (down from 20+ matches in previous years). A family friend of ours said they go to soccer games nearly every night. So many athletes are making withdrawal after withdrawal, but not depositing anything. An overdraft is inevitable. When the teenager files bankruptcy on his young sports career, it's too late to offer alternatives.
Classify and prioritize. Is it necessary to participate if it robs your family of movie night? It is worth it to try to impress a coach at the expense of a family vacation, prom, a graduation ceremony, etc.? Why do you do what you do? What's the long-term vision (of your "coach" or your son/daughter or you)? Why not take a night off?
Last night, I took the night off and took my son to the movie 'Brave.' It was awesome to hang out with him. One of the best nights of my life. Much to my chagrin, the athletes that I left at Victory didn't suffer a bit. In fact, many of them went to the movie, too. Maybe they needed a movie night placed into their rigorous sports schedule to actually take some time for themselves (make a deposit). Since leaving the theater, Isaiah and I have been repeating the line with Merida's little Irish accent, "if you could change your fate, would ya?" Well, would YOU?
If withdrawals exceed deposits, an overdraft is inevitable. We all know this and watch the balance sheet in our checking accounts. Are we doing the same with our life? When someone files bankruptcy, it's too late to start looking at the balance sheet. That work should have been years before the breaking point. The same is true in divorce, giving up, quitting, etc. The breaking point might provide a new perspective, but it's too late to start monitoring the balance. That has to be done well in advance, with foresight and vision, with hopes and dreams, with classifications and priorities.
As a coach, I encourage every athlete to make a priorities list and check it often. I give them permission to classify and prioritize their commitments and relationships. I encourage them to give themselves permission, too. Because some people are useful and some are useless. Some opportunities are build our lives up, others tear them down. When liabilities have out-weigh assets our debt ratio becomes uncontrollable and presents a large number of risks.
In the market place, the higher the debt ratio, the greater risk will be associated with the firm's operation. Like all financial ratios, a company's debt ratio should be compared with their industry average or other competing firms. In the industry of youth sports, the debt ratio of young athletes is running at an unsustainable rate. If the same ratio was attached to an investment firm, a lot of people would lose their money.
Yesterday, an 11-year old athlete told me that his baseball team was scheduled to play 16 games over four days this weekend and into next week. I was shocked by that number and my only response was that he should bring a lot of sunscreen. Our best junior athletes wrestled over 15 matches in four days last week in Oklahoma (down from 20+ matches in previous years). A family friend of ours said they go to soccer games nearly every night. So many athletes are making withdrawal after withdrawal, but not depositing anything. An overdraft is inevitable. When the teenager files bankruptcy on his young sports career, it's too late to offer alternatives.
Classify and prioritize. Is it necessary to participate if it robs your family of movie night? It is worth it to try to impress a coach at the expense of a family vacation, prom, a graduation ceremony, etc.? Why do you do what you do? What's the long-term vision (of your "coach" or your son/daughter or you)? Why not take a night off?
Last night, I took the night off and took my son to the movie 'Brave.' It was awesome to hang out with him. One of the best nights of my life. Much to my chagrin, the athletes that I left at Victory didn't suffer a bit. In fact, many of them went to the movie, too. Maybe they needed a movie night placed into their rigorous sports schedule to actually take some time for themselves (make a deposit). Since leaving the theater, Isaiah and I have been repeating the line with Merida's little Irish accent, "if you could change your fate, would ya?" Well, would YOU?
Friday, June 29, 2012
High sense of entitlement, low sense of gratitude
This first topic - high sense of entitlement, low sense of gratitude - shapes the entire discourse on this subject. It's first on the list because it's most evident and most powerful. Additionally, it's not unique to athletics and is more so a result of child rearing than it is of the sports culture. However, the sports culture magnifies and multiplies the sentiment of entitlement coupled with a lack of gratitude. We're trained to be takers instead of givers and the sports culture rewards it.
Family psychologist John Rosemond penned the book Parenting By the Book and answers questions by parents on his website, rosemond.com. He explains Generation E's sense of entitlement like this:
Years ago, the Wall Street Journal did a feature on "Trophy Kids" entering the workplace. They used the term "millennial generation" to describe individuals born between 1980 and 2001. The millennials were coddled by their parents and nurtured with a strong sense of entitlement.
In an article from October, 2008, Gretchen Neels, a Boston-based consultant, described a time when she was coaching a group of college students for job interviews and she asked them how they believe employers view them. She gave them a clue, telling them that the word she was looking for begins with the letter "e." One young man shouted out, "excellent." Other students chimed in with "enthusiastic" and "energetic." Not even close. The correct answer, she said, is "entitled." "Huh?" the students responded, surprised and even hurt to think that managers are offended by their highfalutin opinions of themselves.
This generation was treated so delicately that many schoolteachers stopped grading papers and tests in harsh-looking red ink. Some managers have seen millennials break down in tears after a negative performance review and even quit their jobs. "They like the constant positive reinforcement, but don't always take suggestions for improvement well," says Steve Canale, recruiting manager at General Electric Co. In performance evaluations, "it's still important to give the good, the bad and the ugly, but with a more positive emphasis."
Entitlement not only enters the workplace in the adult world, it enters the sports culture in the world of children. As a coach, do I have a responsibility to confront entitlement head-on? Should I aim to teach youth athletes about self-respect instead of self-esteem? I think so.
Kids come into our building with the belief that they're deserving or entitled to certain privileges. As a general rule, the more a parent is around (hovering), the more entitled, or exempt from the rules, the young athletes seem to believe they are. They are predisposed to believe their involvement is a right rather than a unique opportunity.
Unfortunately, I have to lay out our expectations of respect because, quite frankly, it's a foreign concept to a group of young athletes. We operate with high standards and have a few rituals that combat their sense of entitlement immediately. One seemingly small tradition is "having a seat" along the wall before and after practice. We share announcements and explain the expectations for each practice at the beginning and talk about life lessons at the end. It's a simple act of obedience that goes unnoticed for many who have been a part of Victory for an extended period of time, however, nearly every first time athlete notices and possesses an uncomfortable posture. Occasionally, an individual will have his own agenda and won't sit against the wall and we have to tell him that everyone must do so. What we're basically communication is, "you're not entitled here." It also signifies a beginning and an end to what we're doing. When we're finished, everyone shakes hands as an act of sportsmanship.
It's amazing how a simple gesture of sportsmanship creates a sense of gratitude. Individuals are humbled and I hear a lot of "thank you's" on the way out the door. I also make a point to thank them for coming. Practicing gratitude creates a grateful heart. I'm much more interested in working with a group of grateful athletes than I am with entitled ones, so we emphasize gratitude.
Family psychologist John Rosemond penned the book Parenting By the Book and answers questions by parents on his website, rosemond.com. He explains Generation E's sense of entitlement like this:
When I began writing this column in 1976, I never thought parents would ever ask me for advice concerning problems with young adult children, and for many years they did not.
Over the past 10 years or so, however, as the pigeons of what I call Postmodern Psychological Parenting have come home to roost, more and more parents have asked me what to do about children (and they are most definitely still children) in their twenties and even thirties still living at home, still expecting their parents to solve their problems, and still acting irresponsibly.
For 40 years and counting, American parents have raised children in a manner that emphasizes feelings over rational thought and good citizenship.
With rare exception, post-1960’s “experts” encouraged parents to focus on the “inner child,” allow their children to express feelings freely, and cultivate high self-esteem.
In the home and America’s public schools, training children to think straight and prepare them for responsible adulthoods took a back seat to helping them feel good about themselves and protecting them from failure and disappointment.
The result is Generation E — self-absorbed young adults who have a high sense of entitlement and low regard for others...
...I know you would say you love your son, but let me challenge you: Love is doing for someone what they need, not what they want.
Years ago, the Wall Street Journal did a feature on "Trophy Kids" entering the workplace. They used the term "millennial generation" to describe individuals born between 1980 and 2001. The millennials were coddled by their parents and nurtured with a strong sense of entitlement.
In an article from October, 2008, Gretchen Neels, a Boston-based consultant, described a time when she was coaching a group of college students for job interviews and she asked them how they believe employers view them. She gave them a clue, telling them that the word she was looking for begins with the letter "e." One young man shouted out, "excellent." Other students chimed in with "enthusiastic" and "energetic." Not even close. The correct answer, she said, is "entitled." "Huh?" the students responded, surprised and even hurt to think that managers are offended by their highfalutin opinions of themselves.
This generation was treated so delicately that many schoolteachers stopped grading papers and tests in harsh-looking red ink. Some managers have seen millennials break down in tears after a negative performance review and even quit their jobs. "They like the constant positive reinforcement, but don't always take suggestions for improvement well," says Steve Canale, recruiting manager at General Electric Co. In performance evaluations, "it's still important to give the good, the bad and the ugly, but with a more positive emphasis."
Entitlement not only enters the workplace in the adult world, it enters the sports culture in the world of children. As a coach, do I have a responsibility to confront entitlement head-on? Should I aim to teach youth athletes about self-respect instead of self-esteem? I think so.
Kids come into our building with the belief that they're deserving or entitled to certain privileges. As a general rule, the more a parent is around (hovering), the more entitled, or exempt from the rules, the young athletes seem to believe they are. They are predisposed to believe their involvement is a right rather than a unique opportunity.
Unfortunately, I have to lay out our expectations of respect because, quite frankly, it's a foreign concept to a group of young athletes. We operate with high standards and have a few rituals that combat their sense of entitlement immediately. One seemingly small tradition is "having a seat" along the wall before and after practice. We share announcements and explain the expectations for each practice at the beginning and talk about life lessons at the end. It's a simple act of obedience that goes unnoticed for many who have been a part of Victory for an extended period of time, however, nearly every first time athlete notices and possesses an uncomfortable posture. Occasionally, an individual will have his own agenda and won't sit against the wall and we have to tell him that everyone must do so. What we're basically communication is, "you're not entitled here." It also signifies a beginning and an end to what we're doing. When we're finished, everyone shakes hands as an act of sportsmanship.
It's amazing how a simple gesture of sportsmanship creates a sense of gratitude. Individuals are humbled and I hear a lot of "thank you's" on the way out the door. I also make a point to thank them for coming. Practicing gratitude creates a grateful heart. I'm much more interested in working with a group of grateful athletes than I am with entitled ones, so we emphasize gratitude.
Thursday, June 28, 2012
Today's Athletes - A Blog Series
Every few months I try to write a small series of blogs that are related in substance and topic. A couple of these series' received a lot of attention. Others, not so much. This week I plan on sharing a few ideas about the sports culture - something I'm very passionate about. I'd like to focus specifically on the athletes.
I hear coaches, parents, teachers and other adults claim that athletes today "are different." They say today's kids (athletes) don't work hard, don't respect authority, etc. I don't believe kids are different, however, the pressures surrounding them are new. This creates a different culture that turns out athletes that are unlike generations before them.
Below is a borrowed list of what I see the typical athlete in 2012 looks like:
1. High sense of entitlement, low sense of gratitude
2. Always makes withdrawals, rarely makes deposits
3. Demands rights, forsakes responsibilities
4. Doesn't follow through on commitments
5. Thinks what they're dealing with is the biggest deal
6. Excuses their own issues, picks out faults of others
7. Talks so much, listens so little
8. Wants success, won't work for it
I will focus on each of the eight characteristics of today's athletes in my upcoming posts. I encourage readers to offer their insights and opinions in an attempt to steer the ship in the right direction.
Many of these characteristics, I believe, are a result of the "exceptional child" movement. As in, every child is exceptional and unique. This mindset says that children are born perfect and it's our duty to keep them that way when, in fact, every child is born imperfect and hard wired for struggle.
I do believe everyone is created with uniqueness and distinction in the image of God, so they have intrinsic value. I also believe that kids are just that...kids. They are not, and should not, be the center of the universe. When they are - at home or as a result of sports - you get individuals who fit into every category of the above list. Chances are, if every night at your household revolves around practice and game schedules, your son or daughter has become the center of your universe and they are on a path to become the typical athlete mentioned above. Hopefully we can create a dialogue that empowers parents to take the control of their families back from sports. It might require some difficult decisions, though.
Disclaimer: I certainly don't believe I have all of the answers on how to make a difference. I might not have any. I see a fundamental error in how we, as a sports culture, do what we do and I'm trying to be the change I want to see in the world. I'm inviting you to help me.
I hear coaches, parents, teachers and other adults claim that athletes today "are different." They say today's kids (athletes) don't work hard, don't respect authority, etc. I don't believe kids are different, however, the pressures surrounding them are new. This creates a different culture that turns out athletes that are unlike generations before them.
Below is a borrowed list of what I see the typical athlete in 2012 looks like:
1. High sense of entitlement, low sense of gratitude
2. Always makes withdrawals, rarely makes deposits
3. Demands rights, forsakes responsibilities
4. Doesn't follow through on commitments
5. Thinks what they're dealing with is the biggest deal
6. Excuses their own issues, picks out faults of others
7. Talks so much, listens so little
8. Wants success, won't work for it
I will focus on each of the eight characteristics of today's athletes in my upcoming posts. I encourage readers to offer their insights and opinions in an attempt to steer the ship in the right direction.
Many of these characteristics, I believe, are a result of the "exceptional child" movement. As in, every child is exceptional and unique. This mindset says that children are born perfect and it's our duty to keep them that way when, in fact, every child is born imperfect and hard wired for struggle.
I do believe everyone is created with uniqueness and distinction in the image of God, so they have intrinsic value. I also believe that kids are just that...kids. They are not, and should not, be the center of the universe. When they are - at home or as a result of sports - you get individuals who fit into every category of the above list. Chances are, if every night at your household revolves around practice and game schedules, your son or daughter has become the center of your universe and they are on a path to become the typical athlete mentioned above. Hopefully we can create a dialogue that empowers parents to take the control of their families back from sports. It might require some difficult decisions, though.
Disclaimer: I certainly don't believe I have all of the answers on how to make a difference. I might not have any. I see a fundamental error in how we, as a sports culture, do what we do and I'm trying to be the change I want to see in the world. I'm inviting you to help me.
Monday, June 25, 2012
Dual Tournaments
This is an interesting time of year in the wrestling world. Tomorrow, the Junior Duals national tournament begins. Recently, the Cadet and Schoolboy national dual meet tournaments took place. Additionally, several dual meet tournaments are taking place across the state. Dual meet events have taken over the summer training and camp experiences. It's feeding a culture of athletes, parents and coaches whose primary interest is competition, not practice.
I've shared my distaste for the national dual meet tournaments with several other coaches and get the sense that many believe they're not necessary, they're "too much," and the timing is not conducive to being successful in Fargo. Why aren't we talking about it openly then?
I've had many conversations with coaches and parents about summer dual meet events hosted by high school and college programs and hear similar feedback to what I believe: that these events aren't making kids better wrestlers. Then why do those same coaches take their team? Why are we investing so much time and money into opportunities that aren't improving our wrestlers? Why can't we have this conversation?
Not enough coaches are asking the important questions in regards to summer dual events. Why are we going? Some say to build team chemistry. Is it working? Can that actually be measured? Or is it all just an illusion? Are teams that participate in dual tournaments improving? I mean, are they getting better? Is it money well spent? High school and college programs enjoy hosting dual tournaments because it's easy money (and they need it to help support a program, I get that). Is that why we're doing it?
On a national level, do the Cadet and Junior duals make sense? Is is wise to wrestle 20 matches in four days? Does this make kids better? Does it burn them up for the rest of the summer? Is it cost effective? Why do we do it? USA Wrestling and other organizations endorse it, is that reason enough for us to do it and does it benefit our wrestlers? Are we becoming a you-rah-rah team sport and are we supposed to develop superficial friendships through experiences like this?
I have a lot of questions about dual meet tournaments and it seems like I'm the only one asking them. When I do, I get answers that lead me to believe that I'm not alone on the potential harm of these events in June and July. Why aren't we talking about it at board meetings, on the forums, at tournaments, etc.?
I've shared my distaste for the national dual meet tournaments with several other coaches and get the sense that many believe they're not necessary, they're "too much," and the timing is not conducive to being successful in Fargo. Why aren't we talking about it openly then?
I've had many conversations with coaches and parents about summer dual meet events hosted by high school and college programs and hear similar feedback to what I believe: that these events aren't making kids better wrestlers. Then why do those same coaches take their team? Why are we investing so much time and money into opportunities that aren't improving our wrestlers? Why can't we have this conversation?
Not enough coaches are asking the important questions in regards to summer dual events. Why are we going? Some say to build team chemistry. Is it working? Can that actually be measured? Or is it all just an illusion? Are teams that participate in dual tournaments improving? I mean, are they getting better? Is it money well spent? High school and college programs enjoy hosting dual tournaments because it's easy money (and they need it to help support a program, I get that). Is that why we're doing it?
On a national level, do the Cadet and Junior duals make sense? Is is wise to wrestle 20 matches in four days? Does this make kids better? Does it burn them up for the rest of the summer? Is it cost effective? Why do we do it? USA Wrestling and other organizations endorse it, is that reason enough for us to do it and does it benefit our wrestlers? Are we becoming a you-rah-rah team sport and are we supposed to develop superficial friendships through experiences like this?
I have a lot of questions about dual meet tournaments and it seems like I'm the only one asking them. When I do, I get answers that lead me to believe that I'm not alone on the potential harm of these events in June and July. Why aren't we talking about it at board meetings, on the forums, at tournaments, etc.?
Monday, June 18, 2012
"National" tournaments
If you've read any of my previous posts over the past few years, you're well aware of my thoughts on the direction of youth sports. I won't spend time today giving background for the reasons I believe what I believe, but I do want to make a point on "national" tournaments for youth athletes.
I've been around a large number of young athletes over the past few weeks at various camps and I'm conducting a little experiment. I'm simply asking random kids if they can define a few words for me. One of those words is "national." I have found that nearly every kid 10 years old and younger cannot accurately define the word. If they cannot define the word, certainly I have grounds to believe that they don't value "national" tournaments or understand their significance. Parents do. The kids are just interested in the water slides that follow the event.
This is important to understand if we're in a position to develop athletes and hope to grow the sport of wrestling (or any other youth sport). I maintain that parents are driving youth sports and creating and taking advantage of opportunities based on what they want rather than what their kids need. In the end, it undermines the development and growth of their children.
We're losing sight of what's important - a healthy perspective. I had a little wrestler attend camp last weekend who was a total spitfire and physically ahead of the curve for his age. However, he wore sweatpants from Carter's. With young children of my own, I know that Carter's is a baby clothing store. That made it easy for me to maintain a healthy perspective with this little kid. He is still wearing clothing from a baby store, so he's probably not in a position to be wrestling at national tournaments (or even state or regional tournaments). This goes along with the kid who cannot put his own wrestling shoes on or tie them without Mom or Dad's help; he's probably not physically or mentally capable of learning complex wrestling skills and chain wrestling no matter how much his parents want him to.
Let's maintain a healthy perspective in youth sports and remember that they're children. Do we really need "national" tournaments for 6 year olds?
I've been around a large number of young athletes over the past few weeks at various camps and I'm conducting a little experiment. I'm simply asking random kids if they can define a few words for me. One of those words is "national." I have found that nearly every kid 10 years old and younger cannot accurately define the word. If they cannot define the word, certainly I have grounds to believe that they don't value "national" tournaments or understand their significance. Parents do. The kids are just interested in the water slides that follow the event.
This is important to understand if we're in a position to develop athletes and hope to grow the sport of wrestling (or any other youth sport). I maintain that parents are driving youth sports and creating and taking advantage of opportunities based on what they want rather than what their kids need. In the end, it undermines the development and growth of their children.
We're losing sight of what's important - a healthy perspective. I had a little wrestler attend camp last weekend who was a total spitfire and physically ahead of the curve for his age. However, he wore sweatpants from Carter's. With young children of my own, I know that Carter's is a baby clothing store. That made it easy for me to maintain a healthy perspective with this little kid. He is still wearing clothing from a baby store, so he's probably not in a position to be wrestling at national tournaments (or even state or regional tournaments). This goes along with the kid who cannot put his own wrestling shoes on or tie them without Mom or Dad's help; he's probably not physically or mentally capable of learning complex wrestling skills and chain wrestling no matter how much his parents want him to.
Let's maintain a healthy perspective in youth sports and remember that they're children. Do we really need "national" tournaments for 6 year olds?
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